true love

 

When I was deciding to get married I really pondered the idea of a soul mate. It was hard for me to believe there could only be one person in the world right for me. Drew and I always call each other "soul friends" and believe we can be happy with whoever we choose to love. With this decision, we have made each other our one and only.

My sister in law Kendra wrote something on her Facebook status today that really impressed me. She seemed to put my feelings on love in perfect words. I just wanted to share it with you...

"There is no such thing as a soul mate because love is not a magic trick. It isn’t a vibrant scarf pulled out of a drunken clown’s sleeve. Love is not as easy as having a soul mate. Love doesn’t appear when you want it to, a bright feast of romance when you are hungry for it.

But I do think there is such thing as a soul best friend- a person who found you and is dedicated to growing with you. A being whose existence fills you with perplexing excitement.

True love is an unyielding attempt to accept another. Real love takes respecting quirks and admiring oddities, appreciating details and disregarding blatant, blaring flaws. Because your relationship will get pecked at. It will get scratched, and dented, and bruised. Sometimes the neighborhood kids will throw eggs at your relationship. Sometimes strangers will gawk at your relationship. Sometimes people will push your relationship to the ground and kick it until it bleeds. If you let it, your relationship will be massacred.

But if you are passionate enough to nurture your relationship with compassion, it will grow. It will burst out of the bare ground if you dedicate yourself. It will bloom every way and push through concrete, it will unfold with understanding. In an epigrammatic daze of persistence, your love will burst and it will not stop until you do.

The idea of soul mates and destined-to-be eternal companions is beautiful, but I think more lovely than that is the profound concept that you weren’t molded from God’s hands for someone, that someone wasn’t molded for you, but that you decided to love each other enough to mold around each other."